Haters gonna hate – as the poet says.
Should you try to fix it, and turn a hater into a believer? Should you respond? Should you even care?
And this is no trick on my part … I really won’t turn it into an advice on how you should always find something constructive when someone criticizes you. You shouldn’t.
Some people are just haters. They don’t care about you, they can’t stand the way you live your life, do your business, or share your thoughts with others. You shouldn’t care about such people. They bring nothing positive to your life.
More than that, you should do everything you can to get even more haters hating on you. Yes I mean it!
Let me quote one of my favorite stand-up comedians – Katt Williams: “if you’ve got 14 people hating on you, you need to figure out how to get to 16 before the summer gets here.”
I know that he’s a comedian, but this doesn’t make him wrong. Actually, this is one of the best pieces of advice I ever got.
You’re not taking enough chances
The fact is that if you don’t have a fair number of people hating on you, it means that you’re not taking enough chances with your business, or your blog, or anything else you’re doing.
This is just the way it is. Success always attracts a group of haters. If there are no haters in your life, it means you haven’t had a true success yet.
Haters as a measure of success … that’s a piece of advice you don’t get every day. 🙂
I’m not kidding. Just think about it.
What happens if you do really make a change in your niche, by offering a superb product for less money than your competition? Will they hate on you? Likely.
What happens if you discover a scam and get it to the sunlight for everyone to see? Will the people behind it hate you? Surely.
What happens if you simply tell someone to screw off because you’ve had enough of their BS? Will they hate you? You bet.
What I’m trying to say is don’t be afraid of haters. It’s their job to hate.
Besides, there’s no such thing as bad press. If people are talking about you, they are talking about you, no matter what they say.
Just enjoy it. Enjoy the things people are ready to do to let you know that they hate you. Sometimes it gets really creative.
How to get more haters
Simply, do what you’ve been doing so far, but do it better, and don’t be afraid to fail.
Whatever you do, don’t try to please everybody. This is simply not possible. Just a small group of people really happy with the products you’re offering, or the posts you’re publishing, or the opinions you share is enough.
If you try to be all things to all people you end up being nothing to no one. (I know, double negative, but it sounds better this way.)
What I’m trying to say is a little vague so let me give you a more exact guide on what to do to attract haters.
First of all, define who’s your desired target audience – the people you really want to get connected with.
Once you know this you can create a truly tailored message to them (in form of products, posts, other content, or offers) and give them exactly what they want.
And the most important thing – don’t care about anyone else. Care only about the people who matter to you.
Don’t try to create your products or services in a way that they’re suitable for everyone and their dog. Unless, you work for Coca-Cola or something.
And if, hopefully, you find yourself in a situation where someone gets pissed off at you for what you do … well, mission accomplished – you have a hater. Great! Now get another one.
Are you going the right way?
There’s one more thing you should keep in mind. Haters shouldn’t make up the majority of your audience. This is probably not the right path to follow.
However, another thing to keep in mind is that haters are often the most vocal people out there. So they will go a long way to let you know that they hate you, but this doesn’t necessarily mean that there’s more of them than people who actually enjoy what you do.
One final advice on how to make a hater really angry …
Nothing angers a hater more than being laughed at or ignored.
This is great, I’m telling you. Whenever someone hates on you in real life, laugh at them. If it happens online, ignore them. If they email you asking if you’re ignoring them, respond “yes.” This stuff is fun. 🙂
Please share your own ways of dealing with haters. Do you have any cool tricks on how to make them even more angry? I’m curious to know.